My Journey to Unshakable Peace

There was a time in my life when I lived in constant reaction—hurt by words, shaken by rejection, and bound by the opinions of others. I allowed people’s actions to dictate my emotions, giving them the power to control my peace. When I was betrayed in my marriage, it wasn’t just the heartbreak that crushed me—it was the rejection that followed. The whispers, the judgment, the feeling of being cast aside by a community I once trusted.

For a long time, I let those wounds shape my identity. I believed the lies spoken over me. I internalized the pain. Every criticism, every insult, every dismissive glance felt like an attack on my worth. I lived as a thermometer, reacting to the temperature of my environment, instead of being a thermostat—setting the atmosphere and standing firm in who I was created to be.

But through deep healing, through my faith, and through the unwavering grace of God, I came to a powerful realization:
No one can take my peace unless I give it to them.

I had a choice. I could remain a prisoner to my emotions, or I could take authority over them. I could let offense rule my heart, or I could rise above it. And when I began walking in Kingdom principles, I discovered a level of confidence and peace that no insult, no rejection, no betrayal could ever shake.

I want to share three key lessons that transformed my life and will transform yours too:

1. Whatever You Magnify Becomes Bigger

For years, I replayed painful memories in my mind, giving power to the very things that were meant to destroy me. But then I learned this truth:

• If you magnify your pain, it will consume you.
• If you magnify negativity, it will control you.
• But if you magnify God’s purpose, His truth, and His peace, then nothing can disturb your spirit.

I had to shift my focus. Instead of dwelling on what was done to me, I started magnifying who I was becoming through the process. Instead of giving energy to offense, I poured energy into my healing. And when I did, I reclaimed my joy, my confidence, and my worth.

2. Not Every Battle is Yours to Fight

I used to feel like I had to defend myself—to prove my worth, to argue my case, to make people see my heart. But wisdom taught me that not every argument is worth engaging in.

• Some battles are distractions. The enemy wants to keep you focused on fighting small battles so you never step into your true purpose.
• Some battles are beneath you. Eagles don’t waste time arguing with crows—they fly higher.
• Some battles belong to God. I had to learn to let go, trust, and allow God to fight for me.

The moment I stopped wasting energy on things that did not serve my destiny, I started walking in freedom.

3. Peace is Your Power

The world teaches that power is in proving yourself, in fighting back, in having the last word. But true power is found in self-control. It is the ability to remain unshaken when provoked.

I learned that peace is not passive—it’s a weapon. When you refuse to let offense, anger, or negativity take root, you disarm the enemy. You take back your power. And most importantly, you create space for purpose, clarity, and growth.

The moment I mastered my emotions, I became unstoppable.

Your Turn to Rise

I share my story because I know I’m not alone. Maybe you’ve been hurt, betrayed, or rejected. Maybe you’ve been carrying offense, reacting to negativity, and struggling to reclaim your peace. But I’m here to tell you—you don’t have to live that way anymore.

You can take back your peace. You can rise above offense. You can walk in unshakable confidence.

Your healing starts when you stop reacting and start ruling over your emotions.

So, I ask you today—will you live as a prisoner to people’s opinions, or will you stand firm in the truth of who you are? The choice is yours.